Dear Rowan, What immediate actions in the area of my love life would improve my life the most overall? Background: I've been in a long term relationship for many years now, and we've been stuck in a cycle. I've become the one who messes up and then reacts when my partner/boyfriend becomes fed up and angry at me. Now, we're at a standoff. I want to improve the situation and stay together, but our interactions are increasingly burdened with all these past issues. I truly want the best for both of us, I'm just feeling stuck and not sure what to do, since discussing things hasn't helped much thus far.